Should I Quit Social Media? A Digital Marketing Expert’s Answer (You’ll Be Surprised) - Corey Perlman

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Written By Brian Nelson-Palmer
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What if the secret to winning at social media is barely being on it at all? Brian debates social media expert Corey Perlman, who runs a digital marketing agency but doesn't even have Instagram on his phone—and that contradiction is exactly the point. Turns out the productivity drain isn't social media itself; it's the doom scrolling that's stealing 40 minutes of your day while you pretend you're "networking." Corey drops the truth bomb that influencer metrics and business metrics are completely different games, yet most professionals are playing by Instagram rules and wondering why they feel like failures when seven people like their post.

This conversation gets practical fast: discover the "rented land vs. owned land" framework that'll save you from platform catastrophe, learn why your LinkedIn company page isn't dead (just neglected), and find out exactly how to be authentically present online without pressing a single button yourself. Brian and Corey tackle the hypocrite's dilemma head-on—can you tell people to quit social while still posting yourself?—and land on a game-changing distinction that lets you have your cake and eat it too. You'll get the app blocker that nukes newsfeeds while keeping connections alive, the 15-minute commenting strategy that builds real relationships without the scroll spiral, and the truth about which platforms actually matter for your business (hint: stop chasing TikTok if you're selling B2B).

If you're trapped between FOMO and burnout, convinced you need social media but hate what it's doing to your brain, this episode hands you the escape hatch. The show notes include all the tools to take back control starting today.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Debate on Social Media

06:42 The Duality of Social Media: Good and Bad

08:24 Navigating Social Media Without Being Overwhelmed

12:02 The Importance of Early Social Media Engagement

16:49 Influencer Marketing vs. Business Marketing

22:20 Staying Unforgettable in a Digital World

31:55 Categorizing Social Media Platforms

32:52 Navigating Social Media for Business

37:53 The Role of LinkedIn in Professional Networking

43:49 Balancing Personal and Business Presence

46:39 Prioritizing Social Media in Marketing Strategies

48:43 Managing Time on Social Media

59:28 Taking Control of Social Media Usage

Today’s Guest

Corey Perlman

Founder & Digital Marketing Expert, Impact Social Media

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Corey Perlman is a social media and digital marketing expert with 15 years of experience helping businesses navigate online presence without losing their focus. As both a keynote speaker and agency owner, he bridges strategy and execution—his team runs social media for about 50 companies while he speaks to audiences about the bigger picture.

His book, Authentically Social, challenges one-size-fits-all tactics and pushes for genuine storytelling over billboard-style posting. Corey specializes in helping professionals separate influencer marketing (chasing likes and followers) from business marketing (quality audiences and conversions)—a shift that changes how people show up online.

What sets Corey apart is his perspective: he grew up with MySpace and early Facebook, but he’s old enough to remember life before social dominated everything. He sees both the strategic value of social and the real mental-health costs of constant engagement. He uses Instagram sparingly (about once a week) and delegates posting, and he’s removed Facebook from his phone to protect his attention.

Corey’s philosophy is simple: you can be fully present on social without living on the platforms. Create authentic content; let someone else press the buttons. And never forget the difference between rented land (social platforms that can change the rules) and owned land (your website and email list).

As a father of a teenage daughter and an 11-year-old son, Corey thinks deeply about social’s impact on the next generation, making his expertise both professional and personal. His north star: be strategic, intentional, and authentic online—while protecting your time, attention, and well-being.

Connect with Corey:
LinkedIn: Corey Perlman
Instagram: @CoreyPerlmanSpeaks
Website: CoreyPerlman.com
Agency: ImpactSocialMedia.com

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TRANSCRIPT

Brian Nelson-Palmer (00:06)

I'm Brian Nelson Palmer. On this show, I share personal, practical, productivity skills that will make you more productive and advance your career. And in this episode, I'm revisiting my question, which is, should I quit social media? This time, I get to debate with a social media and digital marketing expert, Corey Perlman. I love his name so much. Corey Perlman is with me on the show today, who is a speaker, author,

and consultant on social media for business. And he's the founder of Impact Social Media. So Corey, I've been dying to have this conversation with a social media expert. And now you came into my life and I am so happy that we get to do this.

Corey Perlman (00:48)

Well, thank you, Brian. I wish my name was John Smith, but it's not had to go with, know, a little bit more of a more difficult name to say, but it is great to be here.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (00:51)

No.

Absolutely. And now for those folks who aren't familiar with you, talk a little bit about how your background is relevant to the debate we're going to have about should I quit social media?

Corey Perlman (01:07)

Yeah, so I've been, you know, I'm one of these weird generations. You might be in that same with me where I don't consider myself like the social media generation, but I did grow up with it. I mean, it was around me in college and, you know, the MySpace days, the early Facebook days, but I would say the significant part of my life has been somewhat revolved around social media. So I am in between that, but I'm also old enough, you know, a little bit, I guess, less than 50.

to also know the other side of it where it can feel very intrusive. There's a lot of things that my kids are okay with that I'm not okay with. So I definitely can see both sides, I would say to the whole social media conundrum of whether or not it's a good or a bad thing. And then it's also our business. for the last 15 years, I've owned a digital marketing agency. So it started out as speaking on the topic of social media and internet marketing and the businesses and companies

that would be in the audiences enjoyed the speech but didn't know what to do with it. So they asked us to execute on whatever those things we were talking about. And once I got too busy, I started hiring people and the agency was born. And so for the last 15 years, I've been both the keynote speaker on the topic of digital marketing, social media for business, and our agency runs the social media campaigns for about 50 companies. And so we've kind of got both of those worlds where I talk about it from kind of big picture standpoint.

but we're also behind the scenes implementing it. So I'm not just talking about something I read in a book, but it's something that we're actually working on and experimenting with our clients.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (02:37)

man, I am so excited to talk with you about this because I want to quit social media, but I haven't yet. And I'm sure there's many other people who have asked themselves that question at some point. So this discussion is very relevant ⁓ today. And I do want to ask you now, there's a lot of people who do what you do in terms of they do digital marketing, they do social media marketing. So for the person listening, what would you say makes you a little different from

all those other people out there that do this too.

Corey Perlman (03:08)

Um, I would say part of it is my age. I would say first and foremost, so that kind of era where, know, I've been doing it a long time enough to see a lot of these different changes. For example, a lot of the younger, probably people in my world are very much shiny penny syndrome, as I like to call it, where like the new platforms, know, this and that, where I'm a little bit more about kind of where is the money coming from? Where is the audience? So I would say that, you know, that's been something that is different between

us, would say, in some of the newer agencies. And the other thing is, you know, my book is called Authentically Social. And so one thing that is a big deal to me is being authentic on social. not, you know, portraying, you know, somebody else or phoning it in, you know, things of that nature. We really challenge businesses to tell their story and to be open to being a little bit more provocative, a little bit more transparent.

⁓ and helping them understand the value of that because as you've probably seen, when businesses or people phone it in and they become a billboard or brochure on social, they'll come back and say it doesn't work and that's because they're doing it wrong. So that's a big kind of area where we challenge our audience.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (04:20)

Got it. I like that a lot. is there, is there ⁓ a reason behind the name impact social media?

Corey Perlman (04:26)

Yeah, I appreciate you asking that. It's a value of our company is that we want to make an impact in the world. And so one of the things that we've done in the past is we will provide social media advice to a nonprofit or a charitable organization. In fact, the way we got our name, an attorney owned Impact Social Media and was asking a lot of money for it. But he found out about this philanthropic sort of thing that we do.

and said, well, if you're willing to help out this nonprofit that I'm very, passionate about, I'll give you the name. And so we did. And he gave us the name. So it was a really win-win for everyone.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (05:04)

That's cool. Alright, well now so quick background for you listening in case you haven't already checked it out. I had this exact debate with a focus expert a few episodes ago and in that episode

Corey Perlman (05:06)

it.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (05:18)

her and I were kind of on the same page. I am of the lens that social media can be a time suck and a time waster and not an effective use, a productive use of the time. Cause I'm all about productivity, right? so basically I'm going to give you two links in your episode notes. If you want the primer before the conversation with Corey, cause today's going to go a little different, but I had the episode with her.

And that brings us to today because I felt guilty because I don't want to just be a guy who's very closed minded in what I say goes. I've never been that guy.

And so I knew that I was coming off of an episode where we both, the focus expert agreed that we should not be on social media. And then I did this research that showed that we shouldn't be on social media. And so what I really wanted to round out that conversation was a chance to talk with someone who is more pro social media than not pro social media. So that's where Corey and I were introduced and I was really excited.

that he was willing to do this episode to kind of have that discussion. that's our primer. And now to zoom out a second, before I go into questions and we get into the back and forth, Corey, I'd just love to know your thoughts on, without any primer from me, just answer the question, should I quit social media? What are your initial thoughts right off the bat?

Corey Perlman (06:42)

Well, you know, Brian, it's part of the reason I was excited about this discussion is it's not very black and white for me either, as I've gotten older and also have a teenage daughter and 11 year old son. I've seen the good, the bad and the ugly with social media. And so it's not an easy answer. And so what I do, I will tell you this and what I say in front of the stage, you can be successful in business without being on social media. There's nothing that should be

something that you feel like you have to do that is a detriment to your mental health that you think you have to do because of some sort of business metric that I put in front of you. So I always give the grace that for everybody it's different and that social media is certainly not the end all be all to business success. And I've seen plenty of people that you and I could sit here and go back and forth on who have done quite well in the world.

without the use of Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, X, whatever, so on and so forth. I don't personally think the answer, think what we're gonna get into is a middle ground answer that I think is at least for me where it can go. But ⁓ certainly for those listening, I'm not gonna try to prove you otherwise that you shouldn't be off social media.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (07:54)

And you know, Corey, I want to yes and there I want to yes that that makes sense. And I want you to talk me back into staying on social media because that that really I'm looking for people to make the case. And on that topic, you brought up your book. So I do want to highlight one of the chapters in your book is called You Can Be On Social Media Without Being On Social Media, which sounds like a contradiction and a conundrum in and of itself. So explain that a little bit.

Corey Perlman (08:24)

Yeah, so it really, you know, I guess it just goes to my origin story to this point is as I've gotten older, the secret that I typically tell people and I'll tell your audiences now is that I am fully on social media, my presence without me pressing the buttons every single day. I didn't want to feel to your point trapped or addicted or whatever you might want to call it to some of these platforms. But I did realize that without it, was

hurting my business and my credibility. So I had to figure out a way to be my authentic self while still being on social media. So my philosophy, Brian, and this is sort of if people left in the next 10 seconds, this is sort of the end of the story, which is you, your job and my job is to create content. Somebody else's job is to put it on social media.

So that's part of the way that I find myself being able to let go of a lot of the social media responsibilities that I've had in the past, but still have people say, man, where do you find the time? Where do you find the time? It's because I sit back here on my couch or in a studio or wherever, and I'm constantly creating content, and then I'm delivering it to somebody else to press the buttons and put on social. Does that make sense to you, Brian?

Brian Nelson-Palmer (09:41)

well, let's talk a lot more about that. But that, that also makes sense to me because I, I am, you know, it's, it's an interesting because you and I and the person listening, you also are in the same boat where you might create content for social media, whether that's for you personally, you're posting baby photos or that kind of thing, or you're on there consuming it as an individual. But then

Corey Perlman (09:43)

Okay.

Exactly.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (10:05)

you also might be connected to a business entity that is promoting themselves on social media. And for me personally, with Productivity Gladiator, I am a thought leader and an expert on this topic. And so I want to share those gifts with the world. And I do that in a lot of different ways. And social media is one of the ways that you can do that.

know, Corey, let me ask you this. you brought up the point that you could be, you could be, a very successful business and not be on social media. To me, that mark is for an individual, for somebody who wants to get into business of some kind. I think $250,000 a year in income from your business without social media.

is where you should continue to work on the business and focus on the business and make sure your product is so good that people refer it to other people and the referrals and the organic love of the product you're making or the service you're providing. If you have raving fans that are recommending you and you're making 250K year is a number that I put there because I just want to give people a perception of

how like at what point does social media really some people think, well, I'm going to start a business. So I better be on social media first. And I think that's really like backwards. You should have a product or a service, something where you're making good money and you're referring and you need to keep working on that product and keep making it better and keep working on it until you're at the point where you could pay someone like Corey just said, when you can sit back, create some content.

And you could afford to pay someone to do the posting if you wanted to or something. I think that's the healthy point to think about social media as a tool. That's my thoughts. Corey, I'm sure you have thoughts on this. What are your thoughts?

Corey Perlman (12:02)

Well, I

think that'll be maybe the first area where you get a chance to disagree, which is, you know, part part of the dialogue, right? I think from my experience, those that have spent their their time and energy building the perfect product or the quality service and waited to build the social media, those roots weren't planted early on and they regret it.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (12:07)

Okay.

Corey Perlman (12:23)

So what I would say is the sooner the better to start on social and there's certain things that you're doing, know, but I think that the earlier you can start, for example, connecting with your sphere of influence, that alone is, you know, it's hard to go backwards. But if I were starting a business today, you know, I create my LinkedIn account and every time I went to a networking event or

went for a cup of coffee or had podcasts like this, man, we are connecting and I am building that thing because when the product is ready, you wanna have this ripe audience to sell it to. And the problem is, is if you haven't been doing some of these social media initiatives early on, then you're having to start from scratch. And I feel like you might be behind the eight ball a bit, my opinion.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (13:08)

And that's where I'm so glad we get to debate because Corey, I think you got to have the product figured out first. let me use influencers as an example. People get on and they make their whole living just being on social media. And I think the only stories you hear are the.

the success stories, the ones who are, my gosh, they're making, especially kids these days, kids, I'm hearing them talk about, well, I follow this guy who makes a million dollars doing, you know, posting. And instead I also watch friends who have tried it and have struggled for years and never gotten there. And then there's depression and all of the other things that go with it. And so I feel like,

When you post on social media, there is this, you don't even mean to do it, but then you go on and you judge yourself on like, ⁓ only seven people liked it or only 20 people or a hundred people liked it. And, that didn't really get a good response. And that's also out of your control because that's algorithms. That's might not even be your fault or.

And so like you have control over your business and the quality of your product and what people say about your product or service that you've created. And the social media is part way out of your control in a way. I think that.

Corey Perlman (14:29)

But

what you did there, and let me just make sure to clarify, you used two very different things that happen on social. Let's just do it that. You have the influencer world, and then you have the product and services and the business side of the world. If you're an influencer and you're looking for money to come in from talking about products and coffee and

Brian Nelson-Palmer (14:35)

Yeah.

Corey Perlman (14:56)

keyboards and water and all that. It's all about likes, it's all about millions of followers and hope that those royalty checks start coming in. That's influencer marketing. Business marketing or business social media, services and products, again, my opinion, but 15 years of doing this, way less about popularity and thousands of likes and more about a quality audience that you want to take this journey with you.

So, but you're right in one thing to say that a lot of people intertwine those two and that's why they get it wrong. The people listening right now that are thinking about business and their services or products or whatever the case may be need to be thinking about more of a quality audience and more about those few people that they're making a difference with and not worry so much about whether or not, know, because you don't need a large audience to be successful in business.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (15:52)

True story. I'm flashing back to the first time I heard it. When I was growing up, the thought was always like, I want to be a millionaire, right? Like, oh gosh, you want to make all this money? That's the whole thing. And man, the first time that I read the four hour workweek and Tim Ferriss said about that, he called it the new rich. And he said that you don't need a million dollars. You need $10,000 a month in perpetuity.

Corey Perlman (16:01)

Right.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (16:20)

And that is a way different experience. And my mind was blown and that's, ⁓ And so that was that concept of, no, it's not the million dollars. It's the lifestyle that comes with the million dollars. And you can have that lifestyle if you find a way to make $10,000 a month. And so when you talk about being successful in business, to me, that's my perspective is can you support yourself in the lifestyle that you want with the business that you've got?

Corey Perlman (16:25)

Me too, by the way, on that book. Game changer for me.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (16:49)

And you don't need a million followers and 500, a thousand, 5,000 likes and comments on your posts. You need money coming in the door. And social media is a way to connect with people and a gateway to make those introductions. But ultimately you still have to deliver the product or the service. So I really appreciate you separating influencer marketing from business marketing, because you're right. Those are.

Two very different things and the number of likes doesn't well does it matter? This brings me to another point. Corey Corey, so like for example, I I go speak at two like audiences of hundreds of people and I have these great sessions and I connect with these folks and I've got an email list and that kind of stuff and sometimes I post on social media and there is like one like maybe not.

Corey Perlman (17:22)

Not as much. Not as much.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (17:42)

And then sometimes I post and there are like 35 likes or 50 likes or 100 likes. I mean, it varies all over the place. And in my head, I've just kind of settled back and gone, OK, well, if the post was authentically, if it was me, if it was either me saying something that I truly believe or it was something that I did, here's me with a selfie with several hundred people at this session in Nashville that I did or whatever. Like, if I'm sharing me?

then if somebody were to go looking for me, they would probably look on the platform that they like to look at and I would be there. And it's almost like you gotta have a billboard there without, but you don't necessarily have to have a presence with thousands of likes. People aren't judging you based on your likes and your followers. But then there's another voice that's like, well, actually they are. If they see you only have two likes, maybe people don't like this guy. Talk about that.

Corey Perlman (18:36)

Yeah, and I think, know, just to put a bow on that, you know, I think I appreciate you bringing up that sort of blending the influencer and business marketing, because part of why we're talking today is because we do get caught up in that world because we think we have to because we see the influencers. You mentioned that point earlier where you're seeing all this influencer marketing stuff. And so it's making business people feel like they have to do that, which creates a full member.

These influencers, it's like a full-time job. So if you are following that direction and you have the wrong goal, people can't see my hands if they're listening to us, but it's like completely opposite, then there's a reason why you're getting burnt out. Unfortunately, you might've not needed to, because you were following the wrong people. That makes sense. ⁓ To answer your question, yeah, sure. There's, if...

Brian Nelson-Palmer (19:22)

Yeah.

Corey Perlman (19:27)

In your own world, you've sort of come to this point where, look, I want people to be interacting with my stuff and I'm getting one or two likes. There's some content things that maybe we can do. There's some compelling questions that maybe you're not asking, or there's some things that maybe you're not doing to push the needle a little bit, or move the needle a little bit. At the same token, when you're not an influencer, your goals are not about engagement, your goals are about conversion. Let say that one more time.

If you're not an influencer, your goals are not about likes and shares and saves, they're about DMs, website clicks, and phone calls. So it's more important that you've got the phone ringing or you've got the contact form being submitted than it is about these other engagement metrics. And just to give you a quick example, we had mentioned stories. We have a client, I just talked to him today and he said,

Corey, for the longest time I didn't know how my social media was doing. Then I went to an event that I was speaking at and a seven figure client came up to me and he said, hey man, I love that stuff you're posting on social. And my client said, really? And he's like, yeah, and he's like, I've never heard you say anything about it. And he's like, I never will. I like it, but I'll never say anything about it. And I was like, why? And he's like, I don't want your people seeing my stuff. I'm a private guy, but I like it.

And I was just like, wow, wow. And he was like, wow. And he's like, I'm soul. That's all I needed to hear. So I hope that's helpful for you and your audience.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (20:59)

Yeah, it's that connection. what are you, what are you here for? Right. And it goes back to if you get one good lead from social, then that's one good lead that you might not have had before or one. Like sometimes you have to build a relationship with people and not all of them are subscribed to your email list. And so if they see you occasionally on LinkedIn, then they might, I don't know, do you have any sort of stat on how long?

Do you have a relationship with people online before they become customers?

Corey Perlman (21:31)

That's a, you know, I don't have an official stat, but I will tell you something that I say all the time, which I think everybody will fully agree with, which is the olden days. When I say the olden days, I mean, when I was growing up in the sales world, they would say it takes seven touches to make a sale. Now it takes 70. Now it takes 35. You know, now it takes a heck of a lot more. Let's leave it at that. So it's like.

you know, and I do want to go back to something, Brian, that you said early on, which is you said to convince you to some degree that you still need social. And so I don't feel like I've given, know, I've given you a little bit of a disservice where I haven't given you a couple of things that maybe you're not thinking about to at least be open to still wanting to be on social, because let's be honest, like the noise, you know, the imposter syndrome, the political environment, I know it all.

I know it all because I feel it all. I know all the reasons not to be there. And I think your audience does as well. But I want to share a couple of quick things with you of things that maybe would make you think twice or any of your listeners to why we do at least want to think about a way that I can be there without impacting my mental health. Number one is never forget that you're forgettable. And I have that in my book. And so no matter how great you and I are at our products or services,

We're easily forgettable. People will stop listening to this podcast at some point. And if they book speakers or they do agencies, I promise you within the next few weeks, I will disappear. Gone. Now it's my job. If there's any possibility that I'm able to connect with some of your listeners on LinkedIn or on Instagram or Facebook or wherever, and over time I can stay in touch with them with some of my valuable content.

That's a way for that poof of smoke for me to disappear to not happen. And you and I have both had plenty of clients that have come through many, many months or years later, but I promise you, if I don't do a good job on social, the chance of your listeners remembering me after they listen to this, weeks or months or years later, are pretty low. It's my job to stay unforgettable. And that's one of the main reasons why I think social media is so important.

How does that resonate with you?

Brian Nelson-Palmer (23:42)

Well, on the one hand, I see the argument that let's say you had a 0 % chance of them remembering you before, or you have a 0 % chance of them remembering you now. And if any of them engage with you, your odds went from 0 % to something better than 0%. And that came from a connection on social media or maybe, you know, like,

The likelihood of somebody following signing up for your email list is a little lower just because they heard you talk on the, I feel like the barrier to entry of connecting with someone on socials is a little different than signing up for your email address. Like, I don't know, I feel like there's a little more of a relationship there or they're more vested if they're on your email list than they are if they're on your socials. you know, I can also say, Corey, here's a funny one. I just spoke at a conference and I had,

100 people signed up for my email list. And then I went back and I tried, I try to connect with them on LinkedIn as well. Cause LinkedIn is the main, for somebody who's speaking to organizations about productivity, LinkedIn is gonna be my main platform realistically. And I tried to connect with those folks. And what was interesting to me is that,

Corey Perlman (24:38)

Okay.

Me too. Me too.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (24:54)

I would say probably maybe 60 % of them, maybe 60, only 60 out of the 100 had a LinkedIn profile. So there's 40 of them there that the only reason I have a connection with them is because they are on, like I have their email address so I can keep in touch that way. Some of the other ones might be LinkedIn. And then like you said, you show up and it's like a seeding thing. So that's on the one hand.

You went from 0%. I'm getting distracted here. What's my point? There's a 0 % chance they'll remember you unless you connect with them. And then it's like a little seeding thing where you might not be totally forgotten, poof, gone. And at the same time,

all of that effort that you'll put into social media, if they're not necessarily looking for something like that now, it's like a lot of effort for, almost equate, and in my head I'm thinking social media is almost like a cold call. You can make a cold call to people to, you hey, you should book me as a speaker. Or to me, it's almost equivalent to somebody seeing a post from me on LinkedIn or something, because they don't need

⁓ they don't need a speaker right now or something like that. I don't know, I equate posting on social media to cold calling. How does that, does that resonate with you completely? Are you like, does that, are you repulsed by that thought?

Corey Perlman (26:15)

Yeah, I

would say I wouldn't equate those two because hopefully they've connected with you because they know you. I think I would equate cold calling to a LinkedIn invite saying, know, hey, Corey, I love seeing your work, you know, hey, we do this, you know, and you just, I mean, we all know it's like we can sniff it out quicker than whatever.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (26:35)

yeah.

Corey Perlman (26:38)

to also answer your question about the email thing. And I like, you use this sentence a lot and I like it, which is it's not a or it's an and. And I agree with you that, you I would never discount email marketing. I still think there's a place there, although that's a whole separate conversation of getting into inboxes and all that fun stuff. But I do both, you know, I'm a speaker too. And so I will, I will LinkedIn with them unless they don't have LinkedIn, you know, there's that there are those exceptions.

⁓ And I will also try to get them to opt into my email list. And what I find is some people love the email and some people love the LinkedIn. I want to be a whatever is best for you is the message that I'm going to send to you. So I'm a both, not an or on that. And I think that I think that, you know, and I agree with you, LinkedIn is a great platform for this.

And I think it is a low barrier to entry to be able to accept that invite. And it's all about timing. When they've seen you on stage, for example, Brian, they're way more apt to approve your message than before. Before is a cold call. After the session is a warm lead. And I'm a big fan of warm leads over cold calls all day long.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (27:46)

for sure. And for you listening, when you go to conferences, create a LinkedIn for if no other reason than when you meet people, you can connect with them on LinkedIn and you don't have to keep business cards. Most people don't have their own CRMs for themselves personally. And man, I cannot keep it straight. What this guy that I randomly sat in next to at this thing, you know, like I sat next to this guy and he talked about this really cool

Corey Perlman (27:47)

Mm-mm.

Yeah.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (28:14)

a trip or this product or this something, and I don't remember who it is, but I think he worked at this organization or something. If you had business cards, it would be even worse than going on LinkedIn and just start searching for the things that you remember about that guy. Like I have been able to find people because I connected to them on LinkedIn. So for you, LinkedIn is a great resource instead of collecting business cards or email addresses, connect with them on LinkedIn, because then you can search LinkedIn for the people that you know.

And that comes in handy in perpetuity forever and ever and ever. So like, it's funny, I'm sitting here saying I want to quit social media, but I have a LinkedIn profile and I won't not, I won't remove my LinkedIn profile. I'm going to keep it. It's just being how I use it. I don't know.

Corey Perlman (29:01)

100%. And that's, and let's be honest, if we're really being honest with each other, LinkedIn's the easy one to both agree, okay, we'll keep LinkedIn, the Instagram and Facebook and TikTok and X are probably the ones that we should be talking more about because those ones are more challenging because there's more crap that we have to, but let me give you one other thing too, to think about on this journey of whether or not you should quit it or not, you know, and I'll, I was thinking about the best way to approach this, but I'll use you as an example, you know, let's just say,

Brian Nelson-Palmer (29:13)

Ha

Corey Perlman (29:30)

for ⁓ example sake that you and I had met maybe through a connection to Jess Pettit. So shout out to Jess and her podcast episode with you. I was listening, it was a great episode. And let's just say I wanted to be on your podcast and you hadn't agreed to have me on yet. And so maybe I connected with you on LinkedIn, but I'm still hoping to sell you on the value of me to being on your podcast, but it hasn't happened yet. So A, I wanna stay unforgettable, right? And just keep you, but that's just half the battle. It's like, you know,

Okay, Corey's on my radar, but he hasn't, you know, I'm still not there in the relationship to invite him on my podcast. One thing I might do in addition to that, Brian, is you mentioned on your LinkedIn, you don't like when you get like one like or no comments. So one thing I might do in addition to that to build a relationship with you is to start engaging with you. So now I'm following you on LinkedIn and I see you just talked about your episode with Jess. And so I comment and I say, hey, Brian,

First of all, love me some Jess Pettit. I listened to the episode. Well done, you guys. Great conversation. How would that make you feel, and what would that do to our relationship, would you say?

Brian Nelson-Palmer (30:36)

Good point. Well, it would be another data point in he's not a stranger anymore. It goes from a cold call to, ⁓ I recognize, Corey, I've seen his name. He's liked my stuff. Different thing.

Corey Perlman (30:48)

Kind of, yeah, you know, like we're a little bit more humanly connected. Now, to your point back, you know, this is something that can't necessarily be farmed out. That's a whole nother conversation. So this is my time devoting to social media. But what I do with that time is I'm very intentional about depositing good energy towards the people I care about on social. And that might be both from business and personal, by the way, but that is a way for me not only to stay top of mind,

but to build stronger relationships and to move the person that I'm looking to connect with more towards whatever goal I have. If that goal is just to be great friends, great, but sometimes it's to do business with them, sometimes to be on their podcast, sometimes it's something else.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (31:32)

Yeah. let's dive into, I want to shift gears. I've got a couple of thoughts, competing thoughts. One is about, you brought up TikTok and Facebook. So let's talk about some of those. And then I want to talk about where social media fits in the scheme of priorities. So first let's do, so for Facebook, we kind of agree. if you're in business of some kind, if you're a business to business person,

LinkedIn is a no-brainer. And LinkedIn is also your no-brainer platform for looking for a job, personal, professional connections, right? You go to conferences, this is how you keep in touch with people instead of their business card. So we've got that. And then you have social media, the social, I feel like they're the social social media, which is Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, X, now there's threads and stuff keeps be real. Like there's just constantly all the time.

Corey Perlman (31:57)

No brainer.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (32:23)

So why you said to categorize those differently, talk a little bit more about that because I've personally, for me, I've stepped back from posting productivity gladiator stuff. And even for me, posting personal stuff on those platforms and I haven't gone away from them. If you send me a message, I check them like email now, like if there's a notification, if there's a red number, I check it and I see what's there and like, what's the message? Who liked something? But I don't.

do news feeds anymore because that's outside of my control. So I want to go visit people's pages that I want to see, but I don't want to just leave it up to them. And I'm really conflicted on that. So talk about, talk about those.

Corey Perlman (33:05)

So yeah, we can almost knock them out pretty quickly on, know, with Facebook, the obvious thing that people think about, which is true, which is it's a bit of an older, first of all, you'll think demographic wise. And like, you know, if you are putting your business hat on, you're looking for the audience that's most likely to work with you. And so you have to figure out, is my audience super young? Are they a little bit more seasoned as we like to call ourselves? And that's part of figuring out whether or not that platform is right for you. But what I've found, and you can tell me if you differ on this,

Brian Nelson-Palmer (33:15)

Okay.

Corey Perlman (33:34)

over the last few years is, let's be honest, let's be real honest. Facebook is people we already know. It's a lot of friends and family. And so, from a business standpoint, I can't even tell you there's a lot of business, there are some exceptions to that, but most of the time, I can rule out Facebook from a business standpoint because it's really more about you keeping up with your family and friends, and that's up to you. You know, if that is something where you get imposter syndrome and you get frustrated by the politics,

then get off of it. I took it off my phone and I've not had to worry about it. It does not impact my business at all. The only thing that I've noticed over the years is just some of my clients that I have been Facebook friends with, I miss some of their birthdays and stuff like that. So to your point, I'll go in every once in a while and see if I can see some of that, but that's it. So that's Facebook, Instagram and TikTok, they're much more of awareness platforms.

They're much more of like, if I'm looking to grow my consumer-based audience more, those are two platforms that make a lot of sense for businesses to be on and for people who are looking to grow prospects. So it's something more to explore. And then the difference between the two are very clear. TikTok has a much younger demographic. Arguably it's creeping up a little bit, but still 13 to 30 is kind of the rough demographic there. So you gotta think if that's your audience.

30 to 45, a little bit more Instagram-y in that world. So that's a sweet spot for my audience, probably yours as well. And so it's a platform that I pay attention to. And the problem with both of those platforms, once we figure out if it's useful for us or not, is that the content that's coming in is much more toxic than LinkedIn and maybe even Facebook. There's a lot more things that you're not used to seeing. There's not your Aunt Sally and

Grandma Davis and whatever posting, it's the algorithm throwing you scantily clad stuff or pickleball stuff that's completely distracting you or whatever. So there's a lot going on in those two platforms that are probably negative to your wellbeing and such. So when it comes to those platforms, Brian,

If you've chosen to decide to say that those are platforms that are right for me for business, then our next decision has to be how can I produce content on there without feeling like I need to be doing the doom scrolling? And I get back to that point I made to you earlier that I am on Instagram maybe once a week for my own mental health. But if you go to my Instagram profile, you will see that I am on Instagram a lot more than once a

And that's how I've chosen to do that, to keep my own mental health.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (36:22)

And do you have someone else managing your personal as well? Yeah.

Corey Perlman (36:28)

I do,

I do. Now, your response to that, and it's fair, might be, well, that doesn't sound very authentic. And there's a, that's a period, there's a point to that, that it's not as authentic as me doing it every single day. However, the way I go to sleep at night is that the content is my own. There is no video that goes up, there is no article that is produced, there is no carousel post, no real.

No trial reel, no advertisement. Nothing on my social has not been run through me or come through either part of my brain or my chat GPT brain to some degree as well.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (37:04)

Yep, man.

Corey Perlman (37:04)

So that

it is not a misrepresentation of who I am or what my content is.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (37:11)

Yeah. let me just validate. I love what you said about where are the people and who are you trying to connect with? If your business to consumer, then go on the platforms where consumers are. If you're selling $20.

Amazon trinkets, then that's your TikTok and your Instagram and your Facebook, like something where they can just click and buy and you're done. There's not a long relationship there. Okay. Like, okay. Building awareness. And then you're also paying for ads and paying for things. But if you're in a relationship business, which is often what you and I are really, but if you're a business to business or business to consumer, where you're to have a relationship with somebody, then going where you're

going on the platform where they are. That's a really, that's a really good point. I'm glad. I'm glad you brought that up. And the, another thing I'm conflicted on, let me ask you this, Corey, what about LinkedIn? I have this impression that the people who would ultimately book me as a speaker or book me professionally are probably busy enough where they are not doom scrollers.

I have this impression that the people who make decisions don't have enough time to scroll to the bottom of their newsfeed and find all of Brian's good content. They got better things to do with their time, but that might not necessarily be true. Do you have any numbers or metrics to go with that impression at all? Or what are your thoughts?

Corey Perlman (38:31)

Mm-hmm.

⁓ So just to clarify your question is are we look are we on LinkedIn or are we on Instagram? Are you saying for that particular person?

Brian Nelson-Palmer (38:45)

I'm on LinkedIn for that one.

Corey Perlman (38:47)

Yeah, I think that I don't again, you know, not not coming armed with necessarily stats, but based upon, you know, our 15 years of doing this, I can tell you that the professional, if you will, the C level executive, the buyer that you're referring to is more apt to be scrolling perusing LinkedIn than they are the other platforms, especially during business hours. One thing I often remind people of is that

Most companies are comfortable having LinkedIn on their company computers where they are not Instagram, Facebook and TikTok. So it's something to be very much aware of in terms of that world. But I think that, you know, you are right to be thinking that there is certainly a chance that they are missing your content just because you're connected with them doesn't necessarily mean that they're seeing your content. That's where the opposite thing I talked about earlier, the commenting on their stuff.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (39:23)

you

Corey Perlman (39:45)

If there are some very important VIPs in Brian's world, I wouldn't hope that they see your content. I would make sure that I am commenting on their content because the chance of them seeing your content goes up when you comment on their content. So what a win-win, right? Not only are you getting in front of them, but you're also telling the algorithm that you know each other a little bit more, which will increase the odds of them seeing your stuff as well.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (40:03)

Yeah.

point.

Corey Perlman (40:14)

So yeah, I think that that's important. There's one other thing I wanted to share with you real quick. You had asked about, let's see, you said ⁓ Instagram. I know it was, you know, with regard to kind of bringing your unique self, a lot of people think too, it's like, especially with TikTok, you know, do I gotta do the dances? Do I gotta do this? Do I gotta do that? And there's plenty of examples now that you don't, there's a lot of really, really,

Brian Nelson-Palmer (40:14)

True.

Corey Perlman (40:39)

impressive attorneys and dentists and, you know, some of these other professions that are not taking themselves so seriously, but not going so far out of their comfort zone that they're, they're just diminishing their credibility. but they're loosening themselves up a little bit, which I think is not a bad thing for those platforms. But the other thing that's equally as missed is that when we go to LinkedIn, that we think we have to be all buttoned up and professional. I often tell people that

to be yourself on LinkedIn at work. So if you're like, and I can tell you are, know, like a bit more relaxed and fun and, you know, like to have a good time, don't lose that when you're shooting video or posting content on LinkedIn. People are still human there. So make sure that you are still providing that personality. It might just be a little bit more tightened up than Instagram and TikTok.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (41:29)

Yeah. What about personal channel versus business channel? I've struggled with this one on LinkedIn and on Facebook and the different platforms. You can have a business page and you can have a personal page and on at a simple level, it makes sense that the business would have a voice and the person has a voice and those are two different posts. However,

LinkedIn and Facebook and Instagram are all in this to make money and they want you to pay for I feel like the engagement for the business Posts are way less than the personal. It's almost I almost want to just ditch the the business page or leave leave the page out there completely unattended and It's still there, but it just connects to my personal page and let's call it a day or it's I mean, what are your thoughts on on that?

Corey Perlman (42:15)

I will validate what you said. Well, I'll validate the fact that you're thinking in the right priority, especially on LinkedIn. But I'd say on all of them that personal profiles are better than company pages from a engagement standpoint, from a conversion standpoint, all those things. I have a lot of colleagues or a lot of people asking me and colleagues validating that company pages on LinkedIn are dead.

I don't agree with that. I think that's a myth. think that company pages, is a reason to have them out there. I 100 % agree with you. They do not get as much love. They shouldn't get as much love as your personal page. I will disagree with you in saying do not let it die on the vine though. So a nice rhythm is if you're posting a couple times a week to your personal page, you post a couple times a month to your company page. Keep it alive and well. Here's the reason.

We didn't talk about employee engagement yet, but both from an employee wanting to be connected to their company and from an employee acquisition opportunity for companies looking to gain new employees, those company pages are great to show off culture and values. So when somebody is either looking for a job or kicking your tires to decide whether or not they wanna work for you, those company pages become very, very important. So I always tell companies, again,

Let your company personality show on those pages. If you guys have fun Fridays, if you celebrate anniversaries or milestones, things of that nature, don't be afraid to showcase those on those company pages.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (43:49)

That's

a good point. Can we talk about the order of the order of priority where social media falls and the priorities for business?

In our earlier discussion when I was talking about you should be ⁓ my mark is 250k. You should have a product that can generate 250k before the focus turns to doing more digital marketing. where would you prioritize social media versus the other traditional avenues that you can use to acquire clients like what are referrals and I mean, let's using examples referrals.

⁓ cold calling, email and newspaper. Like there's all these other ways you can try to get clients. What are your thoughts on where social media falls?

Corey Perlman (44:35)

It's a great question. It's a difficult question. I don't think that linear too. I think that's a little bit of my challenge. I think about doing some of these things along the same times, but I wanna obviously answer your question. One of the things that come to mind is, know, rented versus owned land. And I'm always a little nervous about social media because we are playing on their rules.

I've had plenty of friends who have built these great dynamic profiles on blue sky or you remember Google plus back in the day only to either blue sky just lost, you know, market share and it's not talked about anymore. Periscope was another one. Google plus died or they changed the rules. You know, they all of sudden you have to pay to play and before it was all organic. So

If I'm talking to somebody and they're prioritizing, I might think about planting my flag in places that I know will exist 10 years from now. A website's a good example of that. Your website's your own. As long as you pay the domain fee and the hosting fee, it's gonna be there for the duration of your life or your career. Your YouTube channel.

You know, that one is technically maybe rented land, but probably more of an owned piece of property on lease space than some of the other social media sites. I have so many friends that have been banned, you know, or gone into LinkedIn jail or Instagram, you know, or they've been hacked, you know. So I do think that being careful of...

solely putting all of your eggs into the social media basket can be very dangerous. I know that's not technically answering your question, but I think that I would be very careful with that. that being said, I would probably prioritize some of the owned pieces of real estate first. your website and your email list. Those two things are owned pieces of property. As long as your email list.

lives on an Excel or a computer dock and not just in constant contact or MailChimp or something like that. Because again, you can go to jail on that and all of sudden be locked out of that. So those are two things that I've always told people to prioritize as number one, number two before social media.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (46:40)

Got it. And what are your thoughts on paying on social media? Like when is it worth it to pay for exposure on social media? And when is it more about just organic content and settling in for the long haul? Like what's your advice to people on that?

Corey Perlman (46:56)

Yeah, another, I appreciate you asking that question. ⁓ I have a chapter in my book on pay to play, and I believe that Facebook and Instagram in particular are pay to play models. I think that if you're a business person or a business in general that are looking to use social media for business, you should have an ad budget. The way we tend to use that ad budget is to help build quality followers.

So, I'll use you as an example, Brian. If I was going to your Instagram and you were like, hey man, I need a bigger audience to market to. I'd say, well, there's some organic things that we can do. Let's create some topics that are relevant to your audience, but let's also put an ad budget behind it. We're gonna create a great piece of content that Brian created, but we're going to put some lighter fluid on the gasoline. The lighter fluid's money. So you already got a little flame, some good content.

the lighter fluids, the money. And the nice thing about Instagram and Facebook is we can choose the audience that that flame goes out to. So in your case, I'd do meeting planners, you know, 30 to 50 years old. You know, I can choose meeting planners, I can choose event organizers, I can really, you know, dive into that particular category. And

And I would build some followers for you that way. And I would also get more people seeing your content like your reels and such by using an advertising budget. On LinkedIn, we're usually almost strictly organic. We've never really seen too much success with the pay to play model on LinkedIn. The only difference on that would be if you are a sales person or somebody who is using LinkedIn for sales goals, then having Sales Navigator or a premium subscription to LinkedIn is probably not a bad idea.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (48:38)

Got it. Okay, that's helpful. Thanks for that.

Corey Perlman (48:42)

Mm-hmm.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (48:43)

I want to kind of rapid fire a few questions that have been on my mind too that I made a note for myself. So let me ask you these. Am I being hypocritical if I'm saying that, me, the productivity gladiator, I recommend people who are time management is a thing. I think you should get off social media because, and I'm basing that on in every one of my presentations.

on, I do a session, one of my signature sessions is on time management. It's what my TEDx talk was on that got picked by Ted. I mean, like, it's very much part of time management is part of me and I have an approach to it. And every time I've done one of those sessions, I always ask people to share their biggest time waster or time suck in the beginning of that presentation. And without fail, at least 25 % of the audience says social media at every, every single time.

It always comes in that way. So I tell people, you should get off social media. But am I being hypocritical because I still post on social media for the people who don't get off? Like I'm telling people that you should get off, but in instead of doing like it's telling somebody they should quit smoking as I'm smoking, like what the, am I being a hypocrite? What the heck, Corey? Dang it, man.

Corey Perlman (49:57)

I think

that ⁓ you just said some actually, you you you did you had a light bulb moment for me there that I never thought of before. But so thank you in that that I think we need to separate the two. think what you need to say to them instead of getting off social media is you need to stop doom scrolling or you need to stop scrolling through social media and instead just post to social media. How about that?

In itself, I think that will be a huge win for them. I think if you really dove into what's taking their time away, it's not posting to social, I would guess. It's, you know, you and I, like, I'm going to post on social and the next thing you know, and I've been there, man, like, holy cow, it's been 40 minutes. What was I doing here? What was I, I totally forgot what I was doing here. That's the problem.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (50:42)

Yeah.

Yes.

Corey Perlman (50:46)

So,

you know, I'm glad you asked that question. So that would be the first thing. And then I think the answer that everybody's hoping to get out of this, at least from my standpoint is in order for you to do what you and I are suggesting you do, then you need to stay off of the actual platforms as much as possible because they are geared to getting you to suck that time away and trap you. So the way I do that is I send, I text pictures and videos.

to someone else to go on my Instagram to post it. I text pictures and videos and content to someone else to post on my LinkedIn. And that is how, Brian, I avoid scrolling through social and mindlessly losing all of my time. ⁓

Brian Nelson-Palmer (51:32)

Do

how do you find those people? Corey, if you want to find somebody to do that for you and have somebody to text to post to your stuff, I mean, is it Fiverr is I've got all I do a whole thing on outsourcing. So I know some of them, but what are your your more in the domain than I am? I outsource generally you talk about social media specifically. Where do you go for that person?

Corey Perlman (51:51)

Yes, I think that there's some tiers to that. So I think if you're in the very beginning stages, know, Fiverr, Upwork, an intern are all good options and very inexpensive options. The next layer would be to hire, you know, a part-time person, something, you know, where they're dedicated a little bit more time to you. Maybe they are...

near you that you can have meetings and they get into your brain a little bit more. Because what's going to happen is the lower tier you go, ⁓ the less they're going to know your brain and know your brand. And the higher tier you go, the more expensive they're going to be. But the hope is the more they can connect to your message and your brand. And then, of course, there's agencies and such like mine. I have to be honest that that's obviously an option, but you have to be ready for that.

And so if you're able to have a team of people to be able to work with you and your brand, then great. So there's different options. There's pluses and minuses to both of them, but finding a human or multiple humans to support your social media initiatives is a good

Brian Nelson-Palmer (52:54)

And you know, for you listening, the other thing I'm going to include still to date, what's funny is I did a post on social media addiction years ago, and it is social media addiction with tech hacks to fix it. And one of the things that I still use, I have a program called Block It. I like Cori, I do not have any of the apps on my phone. I don't have LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook. They're not on my phone. However, I can open them in the Safari browser on my iPhone and there is an app

called Block It that blocks the newsfeed so that I cannot see the newsfeed. So when I want to check my social media, which is once a day or once a day for LinkedIn, once a week for Facebook and Instagram, I go on, I open Safari, I open the page and it's got a number. I can see the numbers, I can see the notifications and I can click on them and see what they were, but there is no newsfeed in any of the sites.

And so I love what you said about you need to post on there or you can go to people's pages. Like if I open up LinkedIn because my buddy Joe said something or what's happening with Jim or whatever, I can go to their page, look at their posts, their own posts and see what's going on. But if you doom scroll your chances of seeing Joe or are next to nothing. So if you're deliberate about it, I can go see whoever I want to see and search for whoever I want to search, but there's no newsfeed. So that's just, I'm going to share that with you, but

Corey Perlman (54:16)

I love it.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (54:18)

To Corey's point, that's, ooh man, that's been gold for me.

Corey Perlman (54:22)

never heard

of that. think that that is awesome. That tool that you just talked about, put that in the show notes. What a, you are taking control of your social media because that's their whole goal. Their whole job is like, you see that metaphor where they're like sucking, you know, the brain space with you and you are, taking that back. You're like getting your freedom back. That's, that's powerful.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (54:39)

you

For someone who feels like they can't completely quit social media because of work, what's your advice? I feel like we kind of touched on this about not scrolling and block it and everything we just said, but any other thoughts on

Corey Perlman (54:59)

The only other thought I would say is to for those of you especially in your world, know that that time management is so important is block certain times out so what I will tell our audiences sometimes is 15 minutes a day for social media is dedicated to what I call OPP for a 90s reference for you, but in my case, it's other people's posts. So 15 minutes a day I go into your point. I don't look at any of my you know

posts, I'm just looking at my LinkedIn feed and commenting on other people's stuff. I think of that as a high value use of my time. 15 minutes a day, a week might be dedicated to ⁓ accepting or declining invitations. So I'm not leaving those out there. I do sometimes farm that out too, but sometimes I like to take that on myself. And then, you know, I block time to create content. Again, that's not on social for me.

If you are your own person and that's okay, then what I would do is be very, very specific. Spend 30 minutes to an hour, a day or a week where your sole goal is to get something out on your social media. You are producing content, you are not consuming content, and that is the key detail. And if you have to have that app on your phone that you mentioned to get that done, then I'll be it.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (56:14)

Awesome. And Corey, one thing I want to yes and what you just said, because that was an amazing light bulb moment. the example you shared of if you become connected with someone and then you start liking their stuff, it's not the like because people, you know, when you go, it just tells you the notification you get is you've had 20 new likes or 15 new likes or something like that. However, if you comment.

you get your own notification and then they see your name. And so what I love that you said that has never really occurred to me until right now is that for every person that I am hoping books me or I want to do business with, I should go to their profile and comment on their last couple of posts just so that they see my name. And that's because I'm around.

And you didn't, didn't try to sell him anything. I didn't go on LinkedIn and send him a message and say, Hey, you should book me as a speaker. But they heard of me. They know me. And now I show up as a cut man. That was like, Oh God, that was, I appreciate that one. Cause I would block time for that. Cause that I see the value in that for sure.

Corey Perlman (57:21)

Yeah, that's a, I forget exactly what you say, but there were people say, a high, you know, for you and I, good use of our time, right? A high worth item for us to do. And I think a lot of your listeners to specifically go out to VIPs, people, you know, and again, I don't want this to sound too much like a strategy. You can do this with people that you just, I do this with a lot of speakers who I'm not getting any business out of, but I just want to.

remind them that I love them and that I'm so happy that they're doing well or or or former colleagues or whatever, know, or even some of my team members to let them know I'm listening, I'm watching, and I'm rooting for you.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (57:59)

Yes, I love that you said that too, because that's one of the things on my, teach a session. I have one of my other signature sessions is on life balance. And we talk about doing things for others. And one of the other ways you can show up for people is just to be a positive person and root them on, like you said. you know, it's, yeah, what I see, you're right. What I just said came across as just a business strategy. And while that's true, you're talking to the person. And so yeah, there's people in your life that could love some, would probably love a good

plug as like, Hey, you're doing great or you're an amazing person or like getting a message like that. God, imagine you if you were on the receiving end of that. So I love putting positive message energy out into the world and posting on people's stuff comments or text texting them directly with a link to a post you saw. You don't even have to do it on the platform. You could, saw this and that was awesome. So anyway, I love that.

Corey Perlman (58:37)

Exactly.

And don't forget, by the way, I know we're talking about LinkedIn, but on Instagram, when people do their stories and you message or even heart or do something that is what we're talking about on stories on Instagram, does the same thing. So just so those of you who are listening, like, well, what about platforms like that too? There's that opportunity for that direct connection over there as well. DM or reply to their stories.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (59:16)

So Corey, kind of bringing us full circle then to the person based on our conversation and what's your perspective here. The person who's listening, where should they start? What should they do? Do you have any advice from your perspective on this?

Corey Perlman (59:28)

You know, I would just, you know, if you are, if you're at this point, you know, and you, felt the same struggle with, social media kind of taking over your lives, I figure out ways to quit. So I'd figure out some things to do to stop letting social media dictate your, your life. And so some things might be to get the apps off of your phone, which you just listened to as somebody who is considered a social media expert does not have.

some of these apps on his phone, so that is perfectly okay. So I would find ways to take back control of your social, and I would say, don't feel like you have to, it's not a one off, you do not have to quit social media. You need to quit scrolling social media. You need to focus on putting out great content and connecting with people who can support you and do business with you, and you need to quit.

mindlessly scrolling social media.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (1:00:26)

I love that as a bottom line. You don't need to quit social media. You need to quit scrolling social media. And I think that that really sums up where I've come to. Should I quit social media? Yes and no. But yes, should. Should I quit social media? No, but I should quit scrolling social media. And I have done that with those apps and stuff. And man, that makes a huge difference. Well, Corey.

Corey Perlman (1:00:45)

Mm. ⁓

I'm writing that

one down too, I like that one.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (1:00:53)

Corey,

here's what it here's what I love. I love that you had a real conversation with me today. I didn't feel like as much as I wanted you to try to convince me there was a piece of me that was like man. I hope Corey comes on here and he's just going to like convince me that I need to be on social media and I don't. I feel convinced but I didn't feel beat up or I feel like I got really good real talk.

with you on this and I really appreciate that you, while you talk about this and you do this, you make your money from people wanting to do more on social media and yet you didn't come in here and it was just a lot of real talk. so, well I'm gonna check out your book which is Authentically Social, right? I'm interested in that, he's holding it up if you're watching the video, that's cool. Cause I'm interested in.

Authentically social sounds interesting, but more than anything, I just appreciate the very real conversation. Thanks for that.

Corey Perlman (1:01:42)

I do too,

Brian. It was a great conversation. I appreciate you spending the time with me and getting me to talk about something that's not typically talked about, I would say, in my circles and something that needs to be talked about more. So I really enjoyed the conversation. And I think what you got out of me is that I do not believe it's an easy answer. It's something I personally struggle with.

especially again, having a teenage daughter and all that. So we kept it real and we're trying to figure out a way to do this professionally while being a good model, not only for ourselves, but also for our kids that you don't have to be addicted to the platforms. So I'm going to continue to work on it and I appreciate you.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (1:02:24)

And for those folks who want to keep in touch with you, what's the best way for them to do it? Where do they find you?

Corey Perlman (1:02:29)

Social media, course.

It is, know, obviously social LinkedIn is a place that I love to connect with you. So if you do listen to this, shoot me a note or connect with me on LinkedIn, let me know you did. Instagram is I'm at Corey Perlman Speaks. And then my websites are CoreyPerlman.com. So C-O-R-E-Y-P-E-R-L-M-A-N.com. And then our agency site is ImpactSocialMedia.com.

ImpactSocialMedia.com.

Brian Nelson-Palmer (1:02:55)

And I will drop those. I'll have those links in the, in the show notes for you too. So you should be able to scroll down and see those as well. So thanks for that. And for you tuning in, please think about someone in your life who struggles with scrolling, who struggles with social media. Maybe it's a colleague or a friend or even somebody you haven't talked to in a while, but would you share the link to this episode specifically with them? Because I know that Corey and I would love to know that our conversation.

reached someone who has been grappling with the same question, should I quit social media? Because we would love to know that it helped someone. And we would love to be an excuse for you to get back in touch with that person, because it might not be somebody that you talk to all the time. It might be an old colleague or a friend or somebody. So also, if you want more productivity insights beyond the podcast, my email subscribers get access to everything that I create. So come join the email list if you haven't already.

I love sharing Productivity Gladiator with you because together these productivity skills are going to change your life. That's a wrap.

Brian Nelson-Palmer
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